What do women like most in men?

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What do women like most in men?
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1949
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NATIONAL WEEKLY What Do Women Like Most In Men? I am glad Mr. Isidro Dagdag Dacquel happened to like my recent article on marriage as expressed in a lette!· of his to the Editor of the National Weekly, (Sept. 24 issue) . And now Mr. Dacquel likes me to answer the question, WHY DO WOMEN DO WRA:T THEY DO? Frankly, I musit confess that thi" is quite a bi2 ord_er and J:.eing so it is quite difficult to get a satisfactorv answer for everyone. Frankly, :toe. I believe there are as manv an~wers to this question as there ~re men anct woman in t.his universe. Perhaps. the answer to ;the question which is the title of this article is one and. the same thin2 to that :vropounded Ly Mr. Dacquel. I am happy, .t-oo, that I have been given this opportunity to crack tlie answer to this interesting question although I personallv believe that psychologists are mori:! in a v(>sition to answer it. However, I am willing to try it believing :that th~s is the onl:v way I will know whether or not what I think about this auestion is. :ri2ht. It seems to me that women act as thev do because they have been eternallv mistreated bv men in general. Aren't men really cruel after all? Do you know why women belong to the so-called weaker sex, and tha;t the only reason and flimsy excuse for it is tfiat only very, verv few of them had been at the head of governments since the world was created ? We all know that mostly men have al one time or another in history ruled over their respective kingdoms to thP exclusion almost of women. And By EMETERIO C. CRUZ if you think women have r.•ever been bitter or jealous about it, you, I think, havP anoth(lr guess coming. Women have since I can remember been accused of being a nuisance, a heavy and expensive load that a man must suffer and carry like a cross on his. back to his gzave. Yet, men cannot live wm10ut them. Why? Because. a womanless life is no life at all. A wom~n, therefore, nec:issarily fills the other half of a man's existence. She is a "must'' thing to compleh' hi~ being, And aware of this important role they play ir. the lives of men but forever brought up to lead a life of submission not, unlike those of the slaves women !1ave more or less found grcunds to gripe every now and th('n. So, I say women have always 6ee~ mistreafod for ages. If women have not been treated by men as their equals it is onl v becausp thP latter are not· yet readv to give up their time honored and time tested traditi.1n that they and they alone can lead both the family and the nation as of old. If only women will be satisfied of· being men's equals this old-age dilemma will have long been a thinJ;! of fhe past. :B.ut no ! They are forever aiming to dislodge men from their kingly pedestal so much so that the fight between them has beer. going on endlessly srnce the beginning; of time. In this connection I Jike to recall my.self in a class of male and female students ill English Literature some fifteen years ago. We wer'-' under a.n effeminate p!l'ofessor who had a habit of blowing his nose before the start and ., ·-· udRS hoµr, apparently from a cold malady with which he was afflicted. Thi~ one-time professo1· of mine got so mad one da:v he told us straight from • his stoop shoulder how he sometimes wondered we ever i::ame to college with our low-rate mentality that was much a~ainst the high quality Rubher Stamps, Dry Seals. Magazines, Greeting Cards V ASOUEZ BROS & CO., INC. GENERAL IMPORTING MERCHANTS WHOLESALE & RETAIL MAIN STORE OFFICE: 740-742 R. HIDALGO QUIAPO, MANILA BRANCH STORE: 11 STA. CRUZ BLDG. PLAZA STA. CRUZ TEL. 3-25-26 October 8, 1949 EMETERIO C. CRUZ ; '.andard tile U nivt..rsity was 1.rying to mabltain as a .matter of policy. He furth~r said ... c -.vuo!e c1ass would be better off in the street shovelling snow or in the restaurant waiting on tables and washin~ dishes. He devoted fully iiau' of the one hour period he was supposed to teach us something about literaturP. and discoursed for the rest of the time about our incapabilities to make up tile grade that the University required. l:n the end, by way of punishing us he gave us the names of ten books to read, and threatened to flunk l!S all should we fail to answer th.~ question, WHAT DO WOMEN LIKE MOST IN MEN? When our class ne~t met there were only a handful of us present either beuius;?. they feared being chidPd by our be5pecfacled proft:as~;» or thP.y .1u . .;t did not ~-~el like comin~ .to class. M., exnarience 1ri the onty Amcr:ean university iil the Urited .States I ever attended i" thvlfc;>reign surlents, more ·.'-SPec1ally when they come from the 01·ient and· they ar·• seJ .. d0m mistaken as suc·h, their brown skin being whsi.t it. is, are alway~ last to be askt>d if at all, unless of coursr you show up an exceptional desire tc• join in the ~las~ discussion. So, whun fin~ :1v I (Cont. on page 34) Page 34 WHAT DO ... (Continued from page 14) was asked by the then furious professor whose facti a!~ ready had become flush lobsterred, apparently disappointed for the failure of the other students to give a correct answer, >.tll "!.. managi!d to say was: "Sorry, Professor, but I did not finish reading all the books you have :is•drned us · to read." Rut .after breathing deeply to rega:n my comvosure, I added: "All I know is that women had ah \\'ay~ wanted to be superior to men." The sneezing professor E:tanding against his desk quickly interpos('d: "There you_ a1~;~ class. Superiority of women ove1· mEn, the man from the Philippines ;o:!ays, is what the fo1·mer likes most in the latter. It's conect." Afte.r a moment, the professor asked me. "'Mr. Cruz, arc ,-ou · :married?" I said no. "Why?" he asked again. ''Ii !ike to b-~ in circulation for a wnile. I ·repiied meeklv." The class ch'Uckied If you think the way my prof P.ssor did at that timt: the riddl~ for you about menwomen relationship is already solved. If vou don't, t~e!l, all t can say is that wome:1 do wh'at thev do because they fig;u.re that beeause they are more or less responsible for bringing us up, men, in this world the right to guide our lives - even our destbjesis also theirs. So. the eternal conflict! Which brin~s us now to that famous quPstion again, which came first: the ~gg or the hen? Or this: w!:'l is 'higher the crowned kfr.g or the man who crowried hm ? But the truth of the matter is that men ·;til~ refuse to give up thei1· ~-uperiorit:;r complex idea over wome , either because there will be more war than we can hand!c or the· (wcme ) are not q~ite rip~ - or mavi>P hav1> nnt enough spr .. ~ time --- fo handle th-~ 1ffairs of t.ht: nation. NATIONAL WEEKLY YOU TOO ... (Continued from page 23) their college papers, receive A's~ Don't let your ter.e.~s worry you. Let it be just as you think it right. Damon Runyon's tenses and style are quite unusual yet he makes millions and turns out best sellers. Who knows that you too might turn out a new literary styLe as DR did? Or you may be a part of that force who, by continu;;i lly doinj!' what is wrong, p1·odt!ces good. Young man (the oltl's are not excluded), YOU TOO CAN WRITE. You can if-you will, you can if you try. Anybody, \;ho has pati:~nce anid tries hard enough, can write. Anybody can learn how to write in a practical way, j,ust !I." anybody can learn how to swim. Nor can anybody learn how to Rwim without trying how. Therefore, try. You may not be Just "dashing things off" or your ideas m~y liot com?. out "like a flash," so to say. You may not dupli · cate Rouget de L'I5e who composed "Miar<:ieilles'' at c-ne sitting with words and all. or Bret Harte w:th his marvellous story "Marvelous Blossom'·' at one single sitting too, or do what Beckford did. You mav not be famihar with the Shakespeare-:1.a classic,, with the Ion?: rolling sentences of Gibbon;s anrl Macaulay that swe·ep alon~ like the \\"ave5 on the ch'aunc! beaches, or the short sentences of Scripture tha.t tick likf> the clock of time. Nevertheless. write down vom· thoughts and put aside that cloak of ~hyness. You cannot \Hite ;f you do not and' will not write. When you feel like it "r vou are in the mood (not for. love or calypso this time). For the present. however, 111 'n the world over are for allowing their womenfolk as . heir equals. But for women '.o be superior to men, that's liff erent. I:t's no wo1;der, lhen, that women will forc·ver nag and nag un+.il the end of this world and l:Jng af. ter we have crossed the Great Divide. make a beeline for the near· £-St typew·riter and keep the keys busy. Damn the literary rules! Just write in your usual way, in your natural styl:e. Just write what you think as the ideas come up your head. You cannot copy somebody's style because ~rours is a part of your cha1;acter. You cannot be what you ar·e not. Who knows that what you have writ.ten which you think as trash would turn out iater to be a masterpiece? Yes, whu knows ? Schubert never had the faintest idea that his "Moonlight Serenade" woulrl b() for (•ternity. He did ·not even attend the occasion for .vhich he was suppos·ed to personally play the original piece on the piano. Go ahead, write Even if it is not blood in your veins Eind air in your lungs. Write something about everything and about sometlung. The world is strewn with all sort~ of literary subjects ·from needle to anchor, from footwear to headgear, trom new look to dol')..'t look,~ from bullet to atom bombs, from downswept to upswept hairdo's, from pin up to pin down girls, from pcpsicola to apalachicola, from backpay to payback, and now that election is ensuing, from promises to compromises, etc. Never mind the rejection slips from the "hard- boiled" E:ditors. That's a part of the game. A famous r.:rime story writer had wrilten more than enough crime storit•s to fill up the pel.itentiarifs before he ha<l a sir..gle ~tory published. A Canadian writer had enough rejection slips to paper a room before he ever saw his by line. Just write down your thoughts minus the idea of beinv. an author. At least, sooner or later, you will hit the mark, even iVOU may call it luck or not. If it turns out that wh1t you have written appears interesting-, after enough practice, the sellin?; come<: as a matter of course. If vou ate a sentimentalist, perhaps, like Charl~~s Dickens, ynur tears would roll do1vn your cheeks the first moment in your October 8, 1949 lifetime you can seo your name in print. As Dickens wrote, "I walked down to Westminster Hall and turned. into it for half fill hou'!", because my eyes \\-'._ere so dimmed with joy and pride they could' not bear the street.." Don't give up your ho~s. Joseph Conrad and RLS were sailors, Lincoln was not a college man, our Stevan Javelana did not specially study journalism. Yet, they were abe to write of the immediate things around them. \Vhatever your ca.:reer is, you still can write. Go to it. THE KUOMINTANG ... (Continued from page ~1) ment from the Presidencv early this year, Madam~ Chiang's departure for t.he Umted States nearly ten months agn and finally Dr. T. V. S•)ong'i:z exi;t from th~ Chinc·~e political scene. . - The Soonf?S are regarderl as ono of the most reinarkablP families in China. The old.e.st of the three Soon!!'. Sh~ ters, Ai-ling, married H. H. K-ung. Ching-Hng marrie·l Sun Y at-sen ithe youngest and the best known internationally, Mei-ling, became the wifo of Chian.I!' Kai-shek. The key posts in the Chinese Governmenit from the•1 on, except for brief periot.ls, were in the hands of Chiang. T. V. Soong and Kung. The strug-gle within the Kuomintang is still on - this hme beb~-t!en the "Kwangsi Clique," represented by Acting President Li Tsung-jen and Gerwral Pai Chung~hsi, anrl the righttwing faction liead·e.i by Chiang. Man:y Chinese predict that the struggle will end in the Kwl'l.nS'si Clique seeking comprcmise with Mao TEe-.tun;? and 1;hat Chiang and his associat1~.~ will take political re. fuge Hbroad . Th~ leftwini? faction wifoin the Kuomintang, represeni.1~d by Madame Sun Yatsen, has a~ready gone over to the 0Jmm1mist cause, according lo Communist announc~­ ments from Peiping.